Rapid Self-Improvement: Take Control
Life hands us innumerable challenges and complications. Sometimes we are faced with so many of these circumstances at once that we succumb to the pressure and give up. There are also many things about ourselves that we are not so fond of which can include, but is not limited to, having a body that isn’t ideal, not being smart enough, being too introverted, and not having a grasp on what you want to do in life. No one is perfect and life doesn’t always go our way, so facing some sort of challenge or trouble will be inevitable. So, what do we do about this?
We must take control! We must take responsibility for our own lives and stop playing the victim. There are two decisions that we will face in life. The first is to take an action and the second is to do nothing. What makes things even more complicated is that we are taught to ignore our problems. It’s common for people to be struggling with a bunch of issues. We aren’t taught that we actually have the ability turn our lives around in every possible way. Well I am here to tell you, you have the power and resources to overcome any situation or reach any goal you so desire.
Identify Areas Needing Improvement
It can be almost impossible to actively improve areas of your life if you are unaware of the areas that need improving. You would be throwing darts in the dark. So, the first step must be to identify areas that need to be improved. I’ll use my personal life as a way to demonstrate how I accomplished this.
Ask Questions: One of the easiest ways to identify what you need to improve is to ask the appropriate questions. I’ll share some of the questions that I asked myself along my journey.
- What about myself don’t I like or wish I could fix?
- What am I afraid of? What do I fear?
- What are the things that I want to do but feel are out of reach?
- What are my short and long term goals?
- What’s something I’ve always wanted to learn but never took the time to?
- What areas and situations in my life are causing me the most stress and unhappiness?
Asking questions is probably the easiest way to figure out the direction you need to go. Asking questions similar to these led me several amazing realizations. I had a fear of things I couldn’t see, I needed to improve upon my jazz musicianship, I needed to work on my speaking skills, I wanted to express myself more authentically to other people around me without fear, and I wanted to retire before I reach 30 years old. Once this was understood, I could move forward and take action.
Make the Decision to Take Action
Once you identify a problem in your life, there is no excuse for you not to address it. It’s so easy to become lazy or complacent with whatever you are facing, but you will be the one who suffers most from this complacency. If you are already unsatisfied with something, then chances are you won’t have much to lose in trying to fix it. This applies to anything in your life. Rather you want to pay off your massive debts, become a an artist, or learn how to manage your anger, it’s all in your grasps. Never let fear or uncertainty limit you from improving your life.
Take Advantage of Your Resources
Now this is where the true magic happens. Use your resources! I cannot stress this point enough, as I’ve seen too many people fail to do it. We are lucky enough to live in a time where we have an ever growing ocean of resources to use. These resources include the internet, books, movies, lectures, formal education and so much more. In most cases, the internet and books are all you really need to improve a certain area of your life. You can take any problem you’re dealing with to a search engine and instantly find 300 pages worth of information dealing with it. Another priceless resource is the people in your life. It is important to surround yourself with people who help you grow in someway. Growing your network and connecting with new people consistently is a great way to do this. If for some reason you can’t find the answers you are looking for, begin to develop your own solution.
Identify 3 areas of your life that you want to improve upon or goals that you want to accomplish. Don’t limit yourself in determining these 3 things. It can be something that you think is impossible for you or something that you know is very tangible. Once you figure out what 3 areas you are going to be taking control over, simply do a google search on how to improve on them.
Example: Let’s say I choose being more sociable in public environments as one of my goals. I will then google, “How to be more sociable in public environments.” From there, I will look at a few of the pages presented.
There are many other ways to do this, but this is such a simple way to begin. You will be surprised how much you learn from such a simple search.